Lose Your Mother: A Journey Along the Atlantic Slave Route

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Extreme sadness and emptiness: One of the most common symptoms after losing a mother is feeling an intense sense of sadness and emptiness. This can be all-consuming and make it hard to function. Finding goal-oriented ways to honor your mother may also provide a sense of personal accomplishment. Help others If you feel able useful to consider how you are going to deal with these days when they come around and whether you want to mark the day. While some people decide to ignore the day, others prefer to carry on traditions or try something new in their honour. I envied them. In the sixties it was still possible to believe that the past could be left behind because it appeared as though the future, finally, had arrived; whereas in my age the impress of racism and colonialism seemed nearly indestructible. Mine was not the age of romance. The Eden of Ghana had vanished long before I ever arrived.

Just like our mothers live in our hearts even after they pass away, Mother’s Day stays as a celebration of their lives and makes us grateful for everything they’ve done for us.This change in role can also lead to sacrifices, such as the loss of dreams, future plans or your identity. Someone wanting to travel the world might have to choose to stay at home to help their sibling. And someone who becomes a carer to their surviving parent might find that they experience changes to their social life or sense of self. These are all factors that can affect coping with grief, but we’re here for you with advice and support. Your relationship with your surviving parent There’s nothing that can replace the presence of your mother, but there are ways to help ease the burden of loss.

I hate visiting your grave because the words on your epitaph don’t do justice to the amazing person that you were. I miss you.”– Unknown Losing people you love affects you. It is buried inside of you and becomes this big, deep hole of ache. It doesn’t magically go away, even when you stop officially mourning.”– Carrie Jones I miss the warmth of your gentle hug and the love I felt when my arms were wrapped around you. I miss seeing your beautiful smile and the sound of your voice saying my name. I miss hearing you say, ‘I love you’ and me saying, ‘I love you’ in return.”– Millie P. Lorenz I know that now," I said. "Last summer it seemed like paradise. But living here it feels more like hell."

NO MATTER HOW BIG a stranger's eyes, they cannot see." I don't think Stella, the housekeeper at the Marcus Garvey Guest House, was the person I first heard use these words to describe the proverbial blindness of Westerners, but she might as well have been. I credit her with my initiation. The judgment stung as much the first month as it did ten months later. It was as if these words were always floating about in my head, just waiting for the right occasion. Now it's impossible for me to recall that first evening without them. Being a mother doesn’t always mean a blood connection. You may have many motherly figures in your life. You may experience feelings of regret during this time, or relief that they are no longer part of your life. Anger and sadness are also common as you come to terms with the fact they weren’t the person you needed them to be. These are all normal feelings, so try not to worry if your emotions take you by surprise. A person can never get over the loss of a parent, especially their mother, but they can learn how to live with it. There were no survivors of Hartman's lineage, nor far-flung relatives in Ghana of whom she had come in search. She traveled to Ghana in search of strangers. The most universal definition of the slave is a stranger--torn from kin and country. To lose your mother is to suffer the loss of kin, to forget your p

You can feel lost after the death of a mother or father. You may even find yourself feeling like a child again, even if you’re an adult with your own life and responsibilities. However, instead of grieving for the rest of our lives, we have to come to terms with the grief and sadness we feel. I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone – you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.”– Alyson Noel I had to use the bathroom, but I was too scared to venture down the hallway, so I peed (that is, I tried to) in an empty water bottle. Fear had stripped away the veneer of civility. Whenever I am missing you, I also remember how fortunate I was that you were in my life. I wouldn’t trade those moments for the world.”– Cindy AdkinsWe have not “lost” our mothers. We say that to be polite, but in truth, we have become un-mothered, like Marie Antoinette was un-headed or that wilderness hiker who sawed off his arm was un-handed. It feels violent. It feels raw and fundamental, a pain that reaches all the way down to your ligaments and bones. Our mothers were our first firmament, literally, our first homes, the universe from whose substance we were formed. A mother’s love’s a blessing, no matter where you roam, keep her while she’s living, you’ll miss her when she’s gone. Love her as in childhood, though feeble, old and grey, for you’ll never miss a mother’s love, till she’s buried beneath the clay.”– Thomas P. Keenan That may be small consolation against the howling wind of sadness that is blowing through my friends’ lives right now, but it’s the best that I can offer. That pain you’re feeling is directly proportional to how much you loved and were loved. Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, and held so dear.”– Unknown All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”– Abraham Lincoln Heartfelt Mother Daughter Quotes